Try this sometime: brew yourself the best coffee possible, or hot chocolate or even green tea, in your favorite mug and sit by yourself in an empty space, whether it may be your kitchen table or your living room.
Absorb the silence around you, and focus on the warmth of the beverage in your hand. Notice whether your thoughts flow, and let them. Notice how the entire hustle of the world mutes down to your presence and the hot beverage you have. Realize that the world isn't going anywhere and all you are doing is stepping aside from the everyday run to take a small breather on the side.
How do you feel?
Do your thoughts focus on pressing matters? Do your thoughts escape to something else entirely? Do you feel anxious about your tasks for the day and you can't wait to get back to the bustle? Or do you feel like you can do with a few more minutes of silence?
Okay, now try the same thing, but purchase coffee from your favorite cafe instead. And sit there.
Pick a table somewhere in the center, or if you aren't that liberal yet, somewhere on the corner. And ask yourself the same question.
How do you feel?
Do you feel awkward? Self-conscious? Distracted and you can't wait to take your phone so you can aimlessly scroll down your Instagram page just to find something to do? You are unable to comfortably sit, observe and absorb, and you question; this is pointless. What is the meaning of this?
If you sit by yourself in a coffee shop, amidst people who dwell in their own little world, not caring about what they might think of you, or what they might project of a person sitting by themselves, you are certifiably confident of who you are.
If you do feel uncertain, you aren't comfortable with spending time with yourself.
When we are alone, we make peace with the fact that there isn't anyone around us to judge or question our every move and action. So comparatively, its easy to drink coffee alone and even better, when you seem to enjoy it.
When we stand alone in the view of people, and we suddenly feel the urge to hide, stand in the corner, fidget with our smart phones instead of just sitting there and do a bit of people watching, letting your thoughts tune in to your surroundings, you are simply uncomfortable with your own presence.
Have you ever wondered why?
Don't you find yourself to be interesting? Aren't you sure of your individuality? Do you find the need to constantly fluctuate with a certain moments instead to just
be.
Have you ever thought that if you aren't certain of
who you are, then how will the people around you get a glimpse of the person you are when you are by yourself at home? Fun, interesting, unique and most importantly, open.
If you don't find yourself to be funny, amusing, attractive, appealing and charming, do you think the people around you will?
No, they won't.
That is why you should learn to drink coffee alone, at home as well as in a coffee shop. You need to learn that its okay to not have anything to do once in a while, and at the same time existing with complete purpose and for that moment.
Certify the world that you are confident to be the person who you reflect when you drink coffee alone, and accordingly the world will transpire ways to ensure that it will introduce you to the people who reflect that attitude.
Its not that hard to drink coffee alone, all you have to do is breathe and
just be.
Can you do that?
